Happy Mother's Day with purple flowers  Mother's Day Bonding Activity Challenge  

Happy Mother's Day !!

Okay, I know its a little early, but wow this year is really flying by. But, I’m so glad to be getting closer to summer. YAH!!! Seriously, snow is fun but winter sucks. With May starting tomorrow, it has me really thinking about Mother’s Day this past week. Well, more-so it has me thinking about my relationship with my mom. The relationship I have with her is not unique to us. By that I mean, it’s a story many people share. My mother and I never got along. Have you ever seen Freaky Friday? Yup that’s us, but we didn’t have an ancient spell to help us through it. I’m the teenage girl blasting “Parents just don’t understand”. For us, this didn’t start in my teen years. This has been our relationship for as long as I can remember. 

As I become older (and might I say just a little bit wiser) I realize that this estranged relationship was just what I needed to become the person I am today. (Not just because the ONLY reason I went to college was to get out of my mother’s house; so, I guess it worked.) Instead, it’s because I now am extra cautious of how I handle the relationship I have with my children. Sometimes people allow their past to negatively effect their new relationships. Life is about learning from experiences. Then taking the necessary steps to move forward in life, happily.
Mother bonding with baby while sitting on grass

Most times it’s the idea of how you don’t want to be like your parents. Honestly, that’s how I thought of it all before last week. Now, I actually have taken the time to reflect on me and my mother’s current relationship. I have moved to a new state (thank goodness) and now it seems to have brought us so much closer together. We talk for hours every single day. It truly amazes me. I mean, we couldn’t stand to be in the same room for more than ten minutes before. We would argue about something pointless. I wondered how this was possible. How is it that we can be some loving to one another today? I know it wasn’t just the fact that I’m older. We’re both the same people we were before. There are still times when we just need to change subjects because we know they will end in a pointless tit for tat conversation. I realized that what we have, is literally an unbreakable bond. There is nothing that could tear us apart. When I focus on all the amazing moments I had with my mother, our current relationship isn't even a question for me anymore.

The Mother-Daughter Bond My Mom and I have is Strong 

My childhood was filled with fun activities. My mother took me to the zoo, museums and city tours. Summers were always filled with festivals, vacations and amusement parks. Spring and winter vacations were spent at the Pocono mountains. It’s not just about the places we went but about the sacrifices she made to make sure my childhood was amazing. I was a cheerleader, gymnast and a dancer. I attended a modeling and etiquette program. My mother traveled to other states, just so I could attend casting calls. She did it all as a retired teacher on one income and with 3 other children. Oh and she has never had a drivers license or car. There are so many days that I can look back on and see how we had an amazing relationship when I was growing up.

My Goal in Life is to Create an Unbreakable Bond with My Daughters 

Mother Bonding with son and daughter while carving pumpkinsThose moments make me realize that fostering an unconditional love between me and my children is the most important thing I can do as a mom. It’s why I fight so hard to create an unbreakable bond every single day. Through all the pointless teenage drama, I know my mom always had my back. I could have very easily moved states and distanced our relationship even further. How many people do you know that don’t speak to their parents other than major holidays and birthdays. She laid the foundation and I hope my children can say the same about me when they are my age.
I want my children to look back and say, “that woman was so crazy, but she had my back no matter what. I can always count on her.” No one is perfect and even if all children experience the same thing at the same time, it doesn’t mean they experience it in the same way. My brother is only 2 years older than me and has a completely different relationship with my mother. Knowing this, I am making an effort now to learn how to effectively communicate with my children. This way we can always stay close and even through the struggling teenage years, I can feel confident in knowing I have laid a foundation and that those negative moments are only a phase.

Mother-Child Bonding Takes Planning 

Mothers Day Bonding Activity Challenge

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I know that eventually these types of moments will come more naturally for me (or maybe they won’t) but I’m going to go with the flow and never let myself lose sight of the goal. In the meantime, I’m going to plan accordingly. My Mother’s Day Bonding Activity Challenge is my first steps to helping other moms create that bond with their children. It’s a way of starting the summer off right. Summer months can become a little dreadful for some. It’s just day in and day out of arguing and bumping heads. We’ll use the month of May to start things off in an exciting and fun way.
The challenge is simple and beneficial to all. I created a calendar with a mother-child bonding activity for each day of May. The main categories each activity falls into is Create, Build, Play, Read, Listen, Music, and Venture. Once you sign up to get your free calendar, I will send you a weekly email with specific ideas for each day for that week. For example, May 25th is Science Experiment Day. For my children, we will finally be opening up their Build Your Own Volcano kit from National Geographic that they got for Christmas. (I might’ve been avoiding it for the past 4 months.) For your family it could be creating Oobleck or the vinegar and baking soda balloon experiment.
 I will post daily on Instagram of how my day looked. I would love for you to share your experiences with the hashtag #MothersDayBondingActivityChallenge. With permission I will share your post on our Instagram account or on Living That Spoiled Life blog. Each week I will share an updated post on the blog to show a reflection of my week


Still reading and haven’t signed up to get your FREE Calendar? What are you waiting for? Start today, your children are counting on you. Everyone can use a little bonding time before we are all thrown into this summer heat wave and long days together.